Time and time again, we come to hear how powerful love can be and how much lessons it can institute into our hearts and minds. Some are still out there searching, trying to find out the answers on how or who, and others, they are fortunate enough to see it with their own two eyes and know just by the experiences they have gone through. 

Love might be powerful and illuminating, however, there are things only time can teach us. We often forget that time is just as influential as love can be, sometimes, maybe even more.  Time teaches us how much we actually love a person when we’re together and at times, realize how much we really loved them only when we’ve lost them.

When we do lose that person, we keep hoping that one day, we’ll be able to regain what we’ve lost. And if things do not go in our favor, we just keep hoping that time will be there to change everything.

I remember a point in my life when I felt as if everything just came crashing down and I have reached my lowest point. As painful and heartbreaking it was, I was able to move on. People were there for me, my friends, my family and most of all, time.

Time was there for me when I believed love wasn’t. 

No matter how you might be feeling right now, whether you feel like punching a wall, cutting yourself, or even consuming a whole bottle of Crown Royal just to forget that heartache and torture and that infuriating pain in your gut due to a lost love, remember a time when you took a Tylenol after a throbbing headache. After a few minutes, the feeling of discomfort starts to die out.

Time is the pill for a heartache. 

They say “time heal all wounds”, but I beg to differ. Just like Tylenol, it sometimes only alleviates pain for a moment, but thus, gives you the opportunity to think clear on what to do next (perhaps see a doctor?). Just like time, it gives us the opportunity to think of the next step. It doesn’t heal all wounds, nor does it make us forget. It gives us time to clear our minds, so we can re-evaluate that “Love”.

Is it worth it to go back? Or did time allow us to have a change of heart and decide to just move on?

Love might be powerful and illuminating, however, there are things only time can teach us. We often forget that time is just as influential as love can be, sometimes, maybe even more. Remember, only time is capable of understanding how valuable love is. 

- Carmela David

It was the first time we had spoken in awhile. First time it felt normal. Without pain, without bitterness, without jealousy and anger. Friends. I used to dread the day that this would happen. Thinking if we could go from completely enthralled in each others lives, to simply a “Hello” and “How are you?”, that what we had hoped for together just wasn’t enough for us to hold on.

I used to think that as long as we remembered how it all started and remembered how much we promised each other, that we would never have to have a conversation about what each other has been up to since we last spoke. Having small talk was never an option because in all our companionship there was never enough room for it.

They say people come and go in our lives for a reason, and that some stay for awhile for the journey together. You live, laugh and love together. But more importantly you learn together. I don’t think I’ve quite understood that till now. It seemed like such a struggle towards the end, that at times it felt like nothing good would come of it.

That it would all just disintegrate and leave us angry, hurt, weak and exhausted, left to mend and fend for ourselves. We spoke and although not much was really said about the past, we both knew that indeed we had come and gone in each others lives for a reason.

We lived, laughed and loved together and through it all; learned. A great deal. So that we could do better and be better for ourselves and anyone else who is to come into our lives. It was the first time we had spoken in awhile and it was the first time I realized that what we had was good after all.

- DEXintheCITY

Some time ago, I ran into the quote “Love fails us, that’s because we fail love first”. At that time, I never fully understood what that saying meant, as far as my own interpretation. Love fails at least more than once in our lifetime. Love isn’t perfect. Never was, never is & never will it ever be.

I believe it is bound to happen to each & everyone of us. Sometimes, we tend to focus too much on the bitter love past has brought us. Therefore, somewhat, somehow along the way, the fear of falling in love, the fear of being in love, the fear of mere love dictates our paths into building us closed guarded walls. Leads us to running & hiding to the sole thing we know deep into our hearts we truly desire.

To be honest with you, at one point I thought I have grew cold hearted, I thought I never wanted to be vulnerable for love. I thought I would never let love back into my very heart, my very soul. Just because love has broke me in the past, just because love left awful & painful memories, just because love, or what I thought was love had failed me so many times in my life, does not mean I am not going to continue believing in love. 

Love may have failed us, and we may have failed love, but it we continue fighting for love, I trust love to continue fighting for us.

- Carmela David